爱情中的5个妥协与5个决不妥协
1. Fighting over dinner plans- You want Japanese and he wants Italian. Don't let your craving for sushi ruin your night. If you chose the last restaurant, then let him have his pasta this Time. Taking turns deciding on dinner plans is a great way to keep your relationship balanced and keep you both (and your stomachs) happy.
妥协一：为吃饭的事情发生争执的时候，如果你想去吃日本料理，而他想去吃意大利面，千万不要扫兴，就去意大利面馆也无妨。
2. He wants to hang out with the guys- Don't assume that this means he is choosing them over you. Let him spend the day with his friends, then go to a movie that night. This way he won't feel suffocated in the relationship and refer to you as the old "ball and chain" the next time you do let him loose from your grasp. Plus, granting him his designated guy time will get you on his friends' good sides.
妥协二：他想和哥们一起出去玩。为了哥们，他放弃了和你一起约会的机会，就让他去吧，大不了让他晚上陪你看电影。
3. Decorating your home- Let's face it -- the last thing we want to see in our homes is NFL memorabilia, neon lights of Budweiser emblems, and foosball tables in place of the dinner table. But this doesn't mean you should go hog wild with floral prints and potpourri. Your living space needs to reflect both you and your significant other's tastes, so let him share some of his home decor input too.
妥协三：装饰居室，你们的房间是两个人共同品味的结晶，没必要非要反对哪一个。
4. He wants a pet- If your man is dying to get a dog and you're not so keen on the idea, try not to automatically rule it out. Saying "no" instantly will make you come across as overly controlling, so it's best to at least hear him out. Have him do some research and choose a breed that he thinks both of you might like before you nix the idea altogether. Plus, since caring for a pet is such a huge responsibility, investing in one may give you some insight into how he may handle fatherhood down the road -- just don't bring up that part in conversation.
妥协四：领养宠物。如果你的男人特别希望领养一个小宠物，而你却没什么兴致，由着他吧，不要对他太苛刻。
5. Sharing his interests- Watch some of his favorite movies, accompany him to see his favorite band in concert, or let him give you a history lesson on WWII, if that's where his passions lie. While you may be bored out of your mind, you'd want him to show the same level of respect for your interests and hobbies, so suck this one up and show him that you care.
妥协五：和你一起玩他喜欢的东西，看他喜欢的电影，听他喜欢的音乐会，这是他的兴致所在，就成全他吧。
5 Times You Should Stand Your Ground:
1. He wants all of your passwords- If your beau demands the passwords to your Facebook, Email, and Twitter accounts, this is not the time to compromise. Even if you're not up to anything untrustworthy, you deserve the right to have some personal privacy. Calmly explain to him that there is nothing you are hiding and that he should trust you enough to have a social life without his interference, even if it is only existent online.
决不妥协一：他要你所有的密码。如果他问你要 Facebook，邮箱，Twitter和所有其他想需要口令的密码，千万不要妥协，有的时候你也需要一些私人空间的。
2. Spending time with your friends- Remember the golden rule in high school, "hoes over bros?" While the saying is a tad inappropriate -- not to mention, juvenile -- it is surprisingly insightful. Make sure you don't disregard your friendships when you are in a relationship or they might not be there when you are no longer with him.
决不妥协二：放弃自己的朋友。你不可能因为他而放弃自己的朋友，因为你可以没有恋爱，却不能没有朋友。
3. Financial matters- When you and your man get to the point of combining checking accounts and merging assets, this is not the time to compromise your needs. Paying bills, splitting the rent, and day-to-day expenses should be divided equally and fairly -- and you should have an equal understanding of where your money is going. If your man is taking 100 percent control of the financial aspect of your relationship, then it's definitely time to speak up.
决不妥协三：金钱问题上，当你们决定把钱放在一起的时候，你绝不能因为他的缘故去损失自己的利益。
4. Things are moving too fast- We've all been in a situation where a new relationship suddenly starts taking off at lightning speed. He wants to move in, he talks to your girlfriends about engagement rings, and he's already brainstorming the names of your unborn children. If this pace is making you feel like you've aged ten years in the span of two months, we suggest having a little chat with your significant other. It's completely appropriate to stand your ground and tell him to slow things down.
决不妥协四：进展过快。你们的进展速度飞快，他甚至开始想你们结婚，生孩子，甚至孩子的名字的事情，这个时候你有必要告诉他自己还没准备好，希望能够慢慢来。
5. You have different desires for the future- While you fantasize about marriage and children, he seems set on being a bachelor for eternity. If you clearly desire different paths in life, this should be addressed in time. If he's constantly hinting that his future doesn't involve you, speak up about your own needs and desires so that you both get on the same page. It's not fair for you to be going through the motions of a relationship that is on the fast track to nowhere.
决不妥协五：对未来的不同规划。当你们在设想婚姻和下一代的时候，他似乎总喜欢拿自己的看法当一切，如果你很明白自己想要的道路是什么，就清楚地说出来。
