给40岁男人的约会建议
1. EMBRACE THE NEW WORLD.
1. 拥抱新世界。So you've been out of the game for a few years? Let me get you up to speed. Today, we're all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you'd leave a "positive paper trail" for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life. (Get on social media and make sure you're projecting a healthy image into the world. She will be Googling.)
所以你已经好几年没有游戏人间了？我来帮你了解最新的趋势吧。现而今，其他人更容易找到我们，我们与社会的关联也越来越密切，所以，正如你为潜在的雇主（他/她会搜索你）留下了"积极的个人档案"一样，你也应该留下积极的爱情档案。（登录社交媒体账号，确保给他人留下健康的形象。她也会搜索你的。）2. BUT REMEMBER THE BASICS.
2. 但也要记住基础的东西。
Some things never change: You should arrive on time, be present, take a genuine interest in who she is, offer to pick up the tab, and see that she gets cab if she's going home or stand outside while she enters her home safely. If she's going to yours, always remember to solicit enthusiastic, verbal consent for everything you do. Immediately.
有些事是永远不会变的：你应该准时、懂得陪伴、对她的真实自我感兴趣、替她买单、如果她要回家，那就陪着她直到她上出租车，或者站在门外直到她安全到家。如果她要去你家，一定要记得，你所做的每一件事都要征求她的口头同意。立刻！
3. IMAGINE YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP.
3. 想象自己的下一段恋情。Before you sign up for every dating app you've heard your single friends raving about, imagine what you want this whole adventure to look like. "Take some time to be alone, be comfortable being alone and with yourself, and decide what it is that you really want out of your next relationship," suggests Jane Coloccia, author of Confessions Of An Online Dating Addict. "By getting clear about who you are and what you want, the right person will show up."
在注册约会app之前，你的单身朋友就已经滔滔不绝的说过，你想象中的这段冒险是什么样子。"花时间独处，一个人的时候要乐得其所，决定好自己真正想要的下一段恋情是什么样子，"Confessions Of An Online Dating Addict一书的作者简·克洛西亚建议道。"弄清楚自己是谁、想要什么，你才会遇到对的那个人。"4. GOOGLE YOURSELF.
4. 搜索你自己。Again, your date will be Googling you. So correct misinformation they may find, or at least be prepared to prove that you're not the escaped serial killer who shares your name.
再说一遍，你的约会对象也会搜索你的。所以纠正他们可能找到的错误信息，或者至少做好准备，证明你不是那名在逃的连环杀手，他/她只是和你名字相同。5. FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU WANT TO MEET NEW PEOPLE.
5. 想清楚在哪儿和约会对象见面。Some people like to meet potential dates at bars or cafes. Some like a set-up orchestrated by friends. Others prefer to go looking for love-or at least fun-online via the use of a dating app.
有些人喜欢和潜在的约会对象约在酒吧或咖啡馆见面。有些人则喜欢由朋友牵线。有些人喜欢用约会app寻找真爱--或者寻欢作乐。6. IF YOU'RE DATING ONLINE, SIGN UP TO SEVERAL APPS.
6. 如果你是在线找对象，那就多注册几个约会app。"If you were catching birds would you place your bird seed in multiple places or would you have it in just one place?" says Megan Weks, dating and relationship expert.
"如果你想抓鸟，那你是在多个地方撒鸟食，还是只是干耗在一个地方？"约会情感专家梅根·韦克斯说道。
