哭吧,像个男人一样

Despite what men may think "social norms" may still exist, women actually do prefer a man who isn't afraid to wear his emotions on his sleeve, a new survey has found.

一项新研究发现：尽管男人觉得"社会规范"可能依然存在，但女人实际上更喜欢那些不遮掩自己情感的男人。

According to the survey of 1,500 people by Elite Singles, 95 per cent of women say they prefer a man who is open about his emotions, while 97 per cent say they find that men crying is considered either strong, natural or healthy.

单身贵族网站（Elite Singles）对1500人进行的调查表明：95%的女性表示她们会选择表露自己情绪的男性，而97%的女性则表示，她们认为男人哭泣是一种强壮、自然、健康的表现。

Yet one in six men still believes that women don't want to see them show their emotions, despite the finding that men are more likely to cry because of love than women (13 per cent vs. 11 per cent, respectively).

但六分之一的男性仍然认为女性不希望看到他们表露自己的情感、尽管研究结果表明，男性更可能因为爱（而非女性）而哭泣。（分别是13%对11%）

"This disparity between how men imagine women perceive their behaviour, and how women actually perceive men certainly explains why many men feel they shouldn't cry or show emotion," the survey reads. "Further, among women with partners who took the survey, 81 per cent stated that they would like their partner to show more emotion."

"男性所以为的女性对他们行为的认知和女性实际上对他们的认知差异清楚的解释了很多男人觉得自己不应该哭泣或者不应该表露情感的原因，"研究说道。"此外，在接受调查的有对象的女性当中，81%的女性表示她们希望另一半能表露更多的感情。"

The survey also found that 27 per of male respondents admitted to crying at least once every few months while 14 per cent said once a week. Two per cent said they cry every day, while six per cent say they never cry.

研究还发现：27%的男性受试者承认每隔几个月就会哭泣一次，而14%的男性说他们每周都会哭一次。2%的人表示他们每天都会哭，而6%的人说他们从未哭过。

The majority of women surveyed, however (47 per cent), admitted to crying at least once a month. The most common reason both men and women cry is because of sadness, the survey reveals (58 per cent of men and 60 per cent of women). This is followed by happiness (11 per cent of men and 10 per cent of women) and pain (six per cent of men and eight per cent of women).

然而，调查中的绝大多数女性（47%）承认她们每个月至少会哭一次。研究揭示：人们哭泣的最常见原因就是悲伤（58%的男性和60%的女性）。紧随其后的原因则是幸福（11%的男性和10%的女性）和痛苦（6%的男性和8%的女性）。

But one thing both genders agree on: society makes it difficult for men to open up. The results of the survey aren't surprising to relationship expert Chantal Heide of Canada's Dating Coach.

但他们都认同这一点：社会使男人难以直抒胸臆。加拿大约会教练、情感专家尚塔尔·海德认为这一研究结果并不惊奇。

"Men have been conditioned to hide their feelings," she says. "All this leads to profoundly sad statistics - that men will suffer more depression, alcohol and drug addiction, and suicide rates than women."

"男人已经习惯了隐藏自己的情绪，"她说道。"这就导致了令人十分悲伤的数据--男性比女性更容易抑郁、酗酒、嗑药和自杀。"