7种办法帮你摆脱犹豫不决的苦恼

“People say I’m indecisive, but I don’t know about that.” – George Bush

“Ummm… I’m not sure…” We all suffer from indecision at times. If we are not careful, this can become a debilitating problem which feeds on itself. Indecision is often related to lack of self confidence and a tendency to worry about potential problems. To overcome indecision we need to have the faith to follow our intuition, bearing in mind that sometimes it is not what we do, but rather how we do things that is important.
我们经常觉得自己优柔寡断，很多时候更像一个雪球，越滚越大。犹豫不决经常是由缺乏自信和多虑引起的，要想客服这种犹豫，我们必须得坚定自己的信念，还要告诉自己做什么并不重要，重要的是怎么做。

Both Options Can Work

“Indecision is often worse than wrong action.” – Henry Ford

Sometimes we feel that it is of vital importance to choose the right course of action. We feel that one choice must be the ‘right’ one and the other option ‘wrong’. However, this is often a mistake. What is important is how we make use of our choices. Maybe we have a choice between going to two different places; as long as we have the right attitude we can cultivate happiness wherever we go. If we are constantly worrying about our decision, then we will not be able to enjoy life even if we choose the so called ‘right action’.

任意选择皆可
很多时候我们会告诫自己，选择正确有多么重要，我们告知自己自己选择的必须是正确的，剩下来的一定是错误的。事实上，重要的是，我们要如何利用我们的选择。

Generate Self Confidence
Indecision often occurs because we lack self confidence and doubt our abilities. Perhaps we would like to take a trial for a sports team, but we fear whether we are good enough. The internal debate becomes about whether we should risk taking the trial. In this case, we should not be worrying about our potential limitations. Instead, we should follow our instinct – we have much less to lose than our mind would admit. If we ignore our misplaced anxieties, it will be easier to follow new choices, without worrying about whether it is worth taking the step.

增加自信
我们常常因为缺乏自信或不相信自己的能力而犹豫不决，或许我们想过要参加一个足球队，但我们又害怕自己做的不够好。于是，内心开始挣扎，我们是不是该冒险去这样做呢？

Don’t Worry About What Others Expect You To Do

Related to the previous point is the concern about what others may think of our decisions. We all face choices where our instinct is to go one way, but then we worry about what people will think of our decision. We can take the advice of other people, but, if we really feel one course of action is the right choice, that is what we should do. Don’t give too much importance to the opinions of society; it is your life, not theirs.

不要在意别人的想法
与上一点相关，这一点就是我们过于在意别人对我们的期望与想法。我们常常会面临这样的窘境，意识的本能让我们想选这个，而自己又开始担心别人对我们这个选择的看法。

Speak With A Friend

Sometimes the indecision can go round our mind in circles, creating a downward spiral of indecision. When this occurs it is good to discuss the problem with a trusty friend. We should not ask the friend to choose for us. But, talking about the issue will help to clarify the problem and get a better perspective; once we have done this it will be easier to choose.

与朋友商讨
很多时候，犹豫不决让我们慢慢地开始消沉，这个时候，最好的方法就是与自己的好朋友促膝长谈，让他们给我们出出主意。

You Won’t Regret Being Kind

If you are having difficulties choosing, consider your motives. Sometimes we want to take a selfish approach, but, some inner conscience is holding us back creating indecision. In these circumstances, we will not regret being kind to others, but, if we act only for our self interest then we often will.

善意的动机
如果你很难抉择，想想自己的动机。有的时候，我们想自私，但是马上被自己的良心拉回去了，但是我们永远不会因为自己的善良而后悔的。

Set Priorities

In life there are always things that we won’t have time to do. We can’t do everything nor should we try. What is important is to have a clear idea of our priorities – family, relationships, our inner life, sport or whatever. When we are faced with decisions, we can quickly refer to our priorities. Maybe your boss wants you to work overtime – the extra money would be nice, but, if you are clear about prioritizing your family life then it will be much easier to immediately say no. It is not possible to have the best of all worlds. We cannot expect to dedicate everything to our career and also spend quality time with our friends and relatives.

分清主次
人的一生中，有很多事情做不了，很多事情我们连尝试的时间都没有。因此我们有必要分清主次。

Nothing Ventured Nothing Gained

Sometimes we become indecisive because our mind is worrying over all the potential problems. Rather than looking at the problems consider the opportunities. An indecisive mind will always pick up on drawbacks of decisions. Focus on the potential of the situation and this will help make your more decisive; when an opportunity comes along go for it.

有得必有失
很多时候，饿哦们犹豫不决是因为我们我们担心很多还未发生的事情。因此，不要去考虑还没发生的问题，先想想它的好的一面。