父母获得孩子尊重的7种方法

1. Discipline them:

Of course disciplining our children is a given in any home. But we need to ask ourselves if we are disciplining our children properly? Who rules the perch in your home? How often do your children tell you what THEY are going to do?

Did you know children want discipline and structure in their life? When we take the time to discipline our children, and on a consistent basis, we are actually helping them to develop their character? Correct discipline is a necessary part of the growth process and we shouldn't hold back on fulfilling our responsibilities as parents. The less we spend disciplining and counseling our children the less they will feel loved by us.
1.教导他们：

当然了，教导孩子在任何家庭中都是家常便饭了。但是，我们得问问自己，是否用对了方式来教导我们的孩子？在你家里是谁说了算？你的孩子多久告诉你一次他们要去做什么？
你知道孩子们在他们的一生中需要教导和约束吗？我们花时间来教导我们的孩子，以一种始终如一的做人原则，实际上是在帮他们塑造他们的性格？正确的教导是他们成长过程中必需的一部分，我们不应该推卸作为家长应履行的责任。我们越少的教导和关心我们的孩子，他们越觉得我们不够爱他们。

2. Be a good example:

Children and teenagers sometimes do dangerous and foolish things, and that is because they do not understand or THINK about the consequences. Young minds do not have the wisdom to discern properly about the real dangers of drugs, sex, etc. Just hanging out with the wrong crowd of kids can lead our children down a destructive path.

The proper correction a child receives must be consciously taught starting when they are very young, and this means we need to take our role as parents more seriously. We are to be the good example for our children to follow. We wouldn't want to give our responsibility to someone else, would we? Just as God trains and corrects us to make us better people, so too, must we as parents discipline our children to give them the wisdom and common sense to know from right and wrong. We are in control of our children’s destiny. Let's show by example.
2.做一个好榜样：

小孩子和青少年有时会做一些危险而愚蠢的事情，那是因为他们不明白或没有考虑到事情的后果。年幼的大脑没有足够的心智，去正确辨别毒品，性等的危险。仅是交错了朋友，都能导致我们的孩子误入歧途。
当孩子还很小的时候，我们就必须开始有意识的教导他们正确的认知，这就意味着我们作为家长的必须更为谨慎。我们要做孩子们学习的好榜样。我们可不想让别人来教导我们的孩子，不是吗？就像上帝训导我们，纠正我们的过错，让我们成为更好的人。我们作为父母的也一样，必须教导我们的孩子，让他们具有辨别是非的智慧和常识。我们掌控着我们的孩子的命运，让我们从做一个好榜样开始。

3. Teach them about God:

Parenting is never easy, especially when we actually put forth energy to do it. That is why God has given His guidance to help direct us along the way. God's guidance can become a Father's spiritual authority.

A father should use that authority wisely. Firstly by protecting his sons, and especially daughters from outside influences. The whole purpose of parental discipline is to help children grow and learn to be honest, loving adults, is it not? One of the greatest responsibilities we have as parents is to teach our children the value of wisdom and spiritual truth. Where do you think wisdom comes from? Parents have wisdom and that wisdom can get passed on to children but in the end all wisdom and truth come from God.

[Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4]
3.教他们认识上帝：

做父母从来就不是一件容易的事情，尤其是当我们全身心的去养育我们的孩子的时候。那就是为什么上帝给出了他的主旨，一路上帮助指引着我们。 上帝的主旨可以是父亲的精神权威。
父亲应当明智的使用这种权威。首先要保护他的儿子，尤其是女儿免受外界的影响。父母教导孩子的最终目的，是帮助我们的孩子学会并成为一个诚实，充满爱心的成年人，难道不是吗？做父母的伟大职责之一，是要我们的孩子明白智慧的价值和精神的真理。你认为智慧从何而来？父母的智慧可以传递给他们的孩子，但是所有的智慧和真理都最终来至于上帝。

[你们做父亲的，不要惹儿女的气，只要照着主的教训和警戒养育他们。----以弗所书 第六章第四节（基督教《圣经.新约》中的一卷）]

How hard can it be to show our children how much we love them? Well we have to take the time to show love rather than buy love. More often than not, our busy schedules refrain us from spending quality time with our children, so what do we do? We buy them stuff. It's great that we want our children to have things but lets not let those things take the place of our love.

Schedule a convenient time, at least once a week, to spend the whole day with your child. You may not know this but our children do enjoy hanging out with us once in a while, especially when we treat them with respect and love. We do this by showing interest in their interests even if it seems wild or frivolous to us. We ought to try and be more understanding of their needs.
4.向他们表达我们的爱：

向孩子表达我们有多么爱他们到底有多难呢？我们必须花时间向他们表达爱，而不是买爱。往往我们繁忙的工作日程，让我们没有足够的时间好好和我们的孩子待在一起，于是我们能做些什么来弥补呢？我们给他们买东西。我们希望我们的孩子应有尽有是不错，但是不要让那些东起取代了我们的爱。
安排一个合适的时间，至少一周一次，花上一整天和你的孩子待在一起。你也许不知道，但是我们的孩子的确喜欢过一段时间和我们出去玩一次，尤其是我们尊重他们，关爱他们的时候。我们尊重他们关爱他们，就要表现得对他们感兴趣的事物感兴趣，即使这些事物在我们看来很疯狂或很无趣。但我们应当尝试着去更进一步的理解他们的需要。

Why are we so afraid to tell our children no? Did you know that most of the time when our children act out in dress, attitude, behavior, drugs, sex, they are actually calling out for love. That's all they want! Whose responsibility is it to give them the love they deserve? Children learn at a very young age that by using manipulative behaviors it will get us to pay more attention to them. And it works! But screaming and nagging doesn't. Ignoring them doesn’t work either. Our children wish we would tell them no. All they want is our attention.
5.对他们说不准：

我们为什么如此害怕对我们的孩子说不准？你是否知道大多数时候，我们的孩子穿着开始变化，态度变得蛮横，行为古怪异常，甚至开始吸毒，发生性行为的时候，他们实际上是在呼唤爱。那就是他们想要的一切！谁的职责是给予他们应得的爱？孩子在很小的时候，就学会了用左右别人的行为来引起我们的注意。那确实有效！而又哭又闹却是不起作用的。不理他们也是不起作用的。我们的孩子希望我们对他们说不准。他们想要的仅仅是我们对他们的关注。

[管教你的儿子，他就使你得安息，也必使你心里喜乐。---- 箴言 第二十九章第十七节 （《圣经.旧约》中的一卷）]

[Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will be a delight to your soul. Proverbs 29:17]

6. Submit to one another:

Everyone in the home should submit to each other out of mutual respect for one another. It is not just the wife who needs to submit to her husband but the husband to the wife, the mother to the children, dad to the children, and children to siblings and parents.

What's going to happen in a home where everyone succumbs to each other? There would be peace, tranquility, happiness, and satisfaction. This is what God wants for the family.

[But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:17-18]
6.彼此听从：

家里每个人都应出于互相尊重而彼此听从。不仅是妻子要听从丈夫，丈夫也要听从妻子，母亲听从孩子，父亲听从孩子，孩子听从兄弟姐妹和父母。
一个家里如果大家彼此听从会怎么样呢？那会是一个和睦的，安宁的，幸福的，欣慰的家。这也是上帝想要每个家庭成为的样子。

[唯独从上头来的智慧，先是清洁，后是和平，温良柔顺，满有怜悯，多结善果，没有偏见，没有假冒。并且使人和平的，是用和平所栽种的义果。----雅各书 第三章第十七，十八节（《圣经.新约》中的一卷）]

7. Be their friend:

First we have to be parents and then it is perfectly ok to be friends too. We want them to trust and confide in us, don’t we? Yes, and that is why we need to know who are children are by getting involved in their life. We shouldn't ignore them, reject them, or discourage them in their endeavors. We need to put forth a little bit more effort to SHOW love to our children, and we will see that we'll get the respect we want and need.

Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
7.成为他们的朋友：

首先我们必须当好父母，然后才能很好的做他们的朋友。我们希望他们相信我们，向我们吐露心声，不是吗？是的，那就是为什么我们需要知道都有哪些人介入了他们的生活。我们不应该忽视了他们，对他们不够关心，甚至在他们努力的时候打击他们。我们需要稍微付出更多一点的努力向我们的孩子表达我们的爱，最终我们会从我们的孩子那里得到我们想要的和需要的尊重。

[你们做父亲的，不要惹儿女的气，恐怕他们失了志气。----歌罗西书 第三章第二十一节（《圣经.新约》中的一卷）]