盘点处理异地恋的10大妙招(上)

A long distance relationship is awful. Almost not worth it. There, I've said it. It feels like a lifetime ago, but there was a point when my husband was merely my boyfriend, and we lasted through two years of a long distance relationship.

“异地恋是可怕的，甚至是不值得的。”这应该是很多异地恋者的心里话。异地恋的时候，那种感觉就像是过了一辈子那么久，但是当我的老公还是我男朋友的时候，我们曾经有一段两年的异地恋。

During that time, we learned a few things and I want to share how we were able to make it. Long distance is never easy, but it is doable.

在那段时间里，我们俩都成长了很多，今天，我想和大家分享一下我们是如何克服异地恋中存在的问题的。异地恋很辛苦，但并非是不可克服的。

't Do It

1.不要这样做

Seriously. It's awful, stressful, and draining. Still sound like something you want to try anyway? Ok, then maybe it is right for you.

虽然异地恋太可怕，会让人筋疲力尽。但不管怎么说，很多人仍旧想试一试？

Everyone told me at the time to not do it, but it only solidified the idea in my head that our choice was the right one for us.

在我和男友异地恋的时候，我的朋友们都劝诫我放弃这段关系，但他们的话更加坚定了我的想法。

Long distance definitely isn't cut out for all couples, but there are certain people who are determined enough to work through it.

对我们俩来说，异地恋是正确的选择。当然，异地恋并不适合所有情侣，但对于那些内心坚定想要克服困难的人来说是值得尝试的。

Just make sure you really put thought into it.

一定要确保你真的想进行异地恋，做好足够的心理准备。

Ready to Work Twice as Hard as You Did Before

2.需要比从前付出双倍的努力

Relationships take work. A long distance relationship takes even more work. But don't confuse work with time. You need to work towards having a very strong, solid base to your relationship.

维持恋爱关系需要花时间花精力。维持异地恋需要更加努力。但不要混淆恋爱的时间。为了有助于你们形成强大的，牢固的恋爱关系，你需要付出更多努力。

Be open, honest and trusting. Take the time to figure out how best to communicate with each other — and when works for both of you.

对恋人坦白诚实并且值得信任。花时间探寻出你们俩最佳的交流方式。

Work at making each other feel special, even without seeing each other.

即使你们不在一起，也要努力让双方都觉得自己是独一无二的。

All the things you work on during a normal relationship will need extra effort for a long distance relationship.

在异地恋中，你需要付出的努力要比你在一段正常的恋爱关系中多得多。

Snail Mail

3.给Ta写纸质信件

Obviously texts, calls, Skype and email can and should still be utilized. But there is something special about getting something physical in the mail.

现在的交流工具太多了，微信、电话都可以作为交流的工具。但是，实物的信件能让你感受到不同的东西。

I loved receiving letters — seeing his handwriting and knowing he spent the time to sit down and write something out.

我喜欢收信——看到他的笔迹就知道他有坐下来，将他的心情转化成文字一一写下。

They also are wonderful to keep and be able to pull out and read when you're having a lonely moment. Reading an old text just isn't the same.

并且收藏信件是一件美妙的事情，当你独自一人的时候，你可以将它们取出，再次回味。阅读以前的文字总是能有与众不同的感受。